Ever wondered how to create your very own BDSM scene? 

BDSM is one of the most intricate sexual settings which allow couple’s to role play, unleash desires and diminish barriers of sexual shyness. 

A few sex toys and some bondage gear can really spice up your fantasies and expand your sexual play.

There are many different types of bondage and fetish gear that you can personally curate for your own BDSM scene.

It is highly suggested to learn the purposes of these BDSM design sexual gear pieces to understand which one serves the best purpose for you. Our adult toy store Cupid Boutique offers over 300+ bondage and fetish items that can help you complete your BDSM set up. 

The purpose of BDSM sex toys is to create a play session that both partners can play out their ultimate fantasies. This allows for dominant and submissive players to switch roles and also act out scenes that arouse them and allows them to play uninhibitedly even during nudity BDSM. 

Typically you can start with BDSM for beginners to get an idea of what a BDSM couple can do to indulge in soft BDSM to get started, once comfortable then you can start to elevate your levels of play to create your very own BDSM room.

Use this quick BDSM guide to help you choose the right BDSM accessories for you and your bondage demands. 

BDSM accessories that create a scene!

Beginner’s BDSM Sex Toys: 

Starting bondage sessions is really a lot easier than you think! There is tons of ideal bondage for beginner’s toys to choose from. You can start with a bit of restraint teasing during your romantic BDSM sessions with a set of handcuffs. 

Ideally handcuffs come in different styles the most popular being metal or furry cuffs. Aside from the fabric Velcro cuffs, you can also choose bondage rope if you have considered Shibari bondage one of the most sensual forms of restriction. Bondage tape can also be used as a resist teasing method during light BDSM training. 

Tantalizing your bdsm woman by adding ball gags, black out masks, and ticklers is a great way to enhance sensory deprivation and pleasures to one another. Each person can choose prior to the BDSM session, or keep it as a surprise during bondage teaching.

Depending on what type of doms you are aiming to be, you may want to hold your submissive subject in certain positions that soothe your demanding needs, using a position strap or a door swing can increase leverage and help your subject stay in position comfortably. With a little imagination it can also be used for resistance training as a beginners guide to kink sessions.  

Male pegging also exists with reverse role playing, a fem dom female provides anal pleasures using a strap-on to her submissive male subject, and provides very powerful sexual gratification. This act also included “Milking prostate” ejaculations.

Intermediate BDSM Sex Toys:

If you are more into an intermediate level of bondage, you may want a more kink BDSM approach, which is known as S&M. But what is s&M? Using kink toys such as nipple clamps, paddles and floggers are all great editions to any kink list sheet. These types of BDSM sex toys are used to arouse couple’s by indulging in pain sensory which stimulates them into sexual arousal or for subject training methods. 

You can start to introduce sex toys when indulging in intermediate BDSM sessions using sensory pleasures you can increase sexually charged atmosphere while enhancing your bondage teach sessions. This is where moans, grunts, and squeals become part of the communication. 

If you are a bdsm dom male your ideal restraining fantasy may look a bit more erotic as well, using hog tie cuffs and spreader bars and switching up the original ball gags for o-ring gags. You may even have a fetish for collars & leashes for your beg kink subject. 

Expert BDSM Sex Toys:

KINK BDSM requires dominant and submissive rules, since the couple’s will be indulging in pain inflicted and restrictive actions, there needs to be a set rules of what can be done vs what can’t be done. 

Kink BDSM toys are a little more daring than beginners or intermediate ones, they have more of an edge to them that can sustain the pain inflicted during kink BDSM play. 

Invest in toys like sex machines for couples to act out multiple scenes for those kink seekers who like to indulge in a foursome. BDSM bed bondage restraints and bondage sex swings are a great way to tie your lover up with 4, 6 or even 8 points of restraint, bdsm bed restraint kits comfortably keep your subject in place while providing their DOM a seductive visual and a keeps the subject ready for their punishment. 

Some fetish kink players think electro-sex toys are a great way to maximize pain with pleasure and a great way to stimulate sexual arousal. Electro-sex toys are available in a large range of stimulation tools such as butt plugs, cock rings and even vibrators!

A very popular act in recent years although the idea has been around for ages, is the act of wearing a cock cage. This is where a BDSM wife instructs her male BDSM partner to wear a cage through-out the day so there is no sexual gratification until they meet face to face. She is the sole key holder and therefore is the only one providing sexual gratification to her male subject.  

Learning the ropes: 

If you would like to learn how to start bdsm scenarios or role playing ideas, you can always join a bdsm chat or bdsm group through Chaturbate BDSM or any sex discussion forum of your choice. Using a BDSM chat question and answer forum is a great way to quickly learn some great BDSM scenarios.

You can even glimpse some videos of how girlbdsm such as submissive women porn, to give you an idea of how it is done by watching scenes and re-enacting them. 

Need help with understanding terms that were created as BDSM slang such as nudebdsm, or bdsm little? Do a google search for BDSM/KINK forums to learn more of the BDSM terminology. 

Once you are more familiar with the BDSM community you can also start to create night scene adult night outs. Where you can meet with couple’s who also share the same interests in BDSM/KINK as you and your mate. 

Quick Facts about BDSM Toys!

What can I use for resistance play?

You can use handcuffs, rope or bondage tape for resistance play. 

Why do some people use black out masks?

It is a great way to indulge in sight deprivation acts. 

Will a under the bed restraint fit any size bed?

Most bed restraint kits are adjustable for a queen or king size mattress. 

What BDSM sex toy should I use for tickling and teasing my partner?

You can invest in a crop or feather tickler to provide tickling/teasing pleasures.

What is S&M?

A mix of pleasure and pain acts that cause a person arousal or sexual gratification.