What Would Your First Sex Toy Be?

If you haven’t joined the world of sex toys yet, where have you been? The market is exploding as people look for devices that promise them more pleasure in the bedroom. Sales are up 123% by some estimates

With that said, knowing what you’re buying can be tricky. Toys can take on all sorts of weird and wonderful shapes. 

Fortunately, this post is here to help. We look at some beginner toys that are perfect if you’re just starting. Here’s a rundown of the most popular beginner choices: 

Bullet Vibrators

Bullet vibrator

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Bullet vibrators are small vibrating toys that look a bit like lipstick bottles. These contain a gyro mechanism that spins, creating vibrations that transfer into your body. 

The main benefit of these vibrators is the price. Manufacturers keep costs down by making devices small and offering basic controls. 

Another pro is how discreet they are. Some literally look like lipstick dispensers! You can keep them under your pillow or in your purse, and nobody will know. Others are small enough to pose as lip balm. 

Most bullet vibrators have silicone exteriors. These are soft and hygienic. (Hardly anything sticks to silicone). You can also find some with a metallic finish, again, making them super easy to wipe down and clean. 

Bullet vibrators are suitable for use on all your erogenous zones. Most are cylindrical, but some have a tapered fit or molding to reach specific areas. You can also get devices with remote controls, which is great for partner play. 

Wand Massagers

Wand massagers are another popular option for those just starting their sex toy journey. These have ergonomic handles and bulbous heads that deliver vibrational energy. 

Companies first designed wand massagers for – you guessed it – regular massages. However, some clever souls figured out you could use them on the body’s erogenous zones for pleasure. Holding them in the right place can produce orgasms in minutes. 

Various models are available. Some older renditions come with wire attachments, meaning you don’t need to change the batteries. Others are rechargeable, so you can keep using them regularly. 

The best wands have a silicone or hygienic plastic coating, like vibrators. These are easy to clean and wipe down after use. Some products are also dual-ended for different sensations. 


female dildo

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If you are an adventurous person, a dildo could make the ideal first sex toy.  Dildos enable full penetration, while vibrators are mainly for external areas. With that said, some dildos do vibrate, while others are static. 

These toys come in various forms, depending on your tastes. Realistic dildos imitate various male appendages, often down to the tiniest details. Meanwhile, non-phallic versions don’t resemble them at all. 

Double-ended dildos are great if you want to share penetrating action with a partner, while glass dildos have a unique aesthetic. Strap-ons are dildos that attach to the body for thrusting action while squirting dildos mimic ejaculation. 

Penis Rings

Penis rings are another beginner’s sex toy to try. These are a little newer to the market. Manufacturers design them to increase pleasure and offer erection support. 

These toys are essentially O-shaped brands that fit around the base of the penis. Many can vibrate to stimulate both partner’s genitals. Features include: 

  • Vibrating dongles for the testicles
  • Stroker beads
  • Multiple sizes for the perfect fit
  • Dual support

Wearing penis rings can change the level of stimulation you experience during sex considerably. Many partners can’t believe they waited so long to discover them. 

Butt Plugs

Butt plugs

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Finally, you might consider getting a butt plug as your first toy if you love anal play. These toys delight in various ways, bringing a new dimension to your sensual activities, alone or with your partner. 

Butt plugs are toys you insert into your anus and come in various forms. Prostate massagers have a unique tip for male prostate pleasure, letting you guide them to the perfect location. Meanwhile, anal beads are an assortment of beads connected by a string that you can insert and pull out.

You can also get wider butt plugs. These give the butt a feeling of fullness that can enhance conventional self-play or intercourse. 

Wrapping Up

When I was looking for a sex shop near me, I couldn’t find advice on any of this stuff. Thank goodness for the internet! Now you know which sex toys to choose as a beginner. Don’t be afraid to be a little adventurous in your selection.